Many people believe that their motivation and dedication to achieve a goal is the most important factor in determining their success. The fact is that one of the biggest factors that will impact your results is the people around you. The people you spend the most time with in your life have the biggest impact on your health results because more often than not, they are the people you listen to, take advice from and adopt similar lifestyle habits. If these people are living life and offering advice counterintuitive to your goals, how can that not be a hurdle to success?
“Associate only with positive, focused people who you can learn from and who will not drain your valuable energy with uninspiring attitudes. By developing relationships with those committed to constant improvement and the pursuit of the best that life has to offer, you will have plenty of company on your path to the top of whatever mountain you seek to climb.” – Robin Sharma
The food prep, the exercise, the early morning workouts, the dedication and commitment to the goal all play a MAJOR role when it comes to achieving a long-lasting lifestyle change, but there is something much more valuable that often gets over looked when health and fitness is your goal.
The success that we have in life more often that not comes down to the people we choose to spend our time with. Surrounding yourself with people who can lift you higher, keep you accountable and celebrate your wins, far outweighs any benefit of doing it on your own. We are a product of our own environment and ensuring that the environment is the best it can be to support the lifestyle change we are looking for sometimes means that changes need to be made.
Want to be happy? Surround yourself with happy people.
Want to be fit and healthy? Surround yourself with fit and healthy people.
Want to be confident? Surround yourself with confident people.
Want to be negative? Surround yourself with negative people.
Want to be unhappy? Surround yourself with unhappy people.
Simply put, we become more like the people we hang out with. It is a tough truth, but it is a truth all the same. If you are constantly surrounding yourself with confident and ambitious people, you yourself will become confident and ambitious. If you surround yourself with people who are unambitious and reinforce negative emotions and behaviors, then eventually those traits will become yours as well.
A simple thing that you can do to reflect on how the people in your life are impact on your health and fitness results is to ask some simple questions:
“Who are the people I spend the most time with?”
“Are they supportive of my health and fitness, or do they bring me down?”
“Are they proactive about their own health and fitness, or is it not a priority?”
“Do they believe that what I am doing with my health and fitness is achievable?
Asking yourself those questions as honestly as possible will give you a really good insight in to why/why not the journey to creating a fitter and healthier you has or has not been as successful as possible.
“The people around me aren’t as supportive as they should be, does this mean that I need to get rid of all my unsupportive friends and find new ones?”
Absolutely not!! There are a multitude of reasons why the people around you might not be 100% on board with what you are trying to achieve. For example:
- Do they know exactly why you are making a lifestyle change?
- Do they know how important it is to you?
- Afraid of change
- Lot’s of people are afraid of change, they see you wanting to change as a threat to the way they are used to doing things
- Partners in particular can seem to be unsupportive because they often ask themselves the question “were they not happy before? What if this change causes them to question our relationship”
- Should they also change?
- When a person in a close group of friends decides to make a change to their health and fitness, it can often reverberate throughout the group. Friends start thinking, should I also change?
- E.g. you and your friends are out for dinner and you say you are not drinking and order a salad instead of the pasta. Quite often people will push their own insecurities/beliefs on you by being negative about not drinking etc. In reality it is their own beliefs that they are confused about, and it is not the intention to derail yours.
The single best thing that you can do to try and get the people around you to support your goals is to have an honest chat to them about what it is in particular you are looking to achieve and why. If they really are close to you, and care about your goals, then they will always be 100% supportive, and you would have also added another layer of accountability to your journey.
There will always be some people who will not be supportive, and will not be able to help with your health and fitness results. That is natural. It does not mean that you need to cut them out of your life, it just means that in terms of your health and fitness they are not the people that you need to ask advice/talk to about your journey. They may well engage in other areas in your life where they can be helpful and supportive.
Here are some great ways to create a strong support network and make sure that when you decide to make a positive change to your health and fitness, the right people are around you:
- Invite your friends to join you! If they see what you are doing, they might want to get involved
- Join a group of like-minded people. A run group or a group exercise class. A supportive environment is much more likely to foster a result than doing it solo
- Events! Linking your goal with an event means that you always have something tangible to work towards. It also gives you a direct target to aim towards and provides ongoing motivation.
- Subscribe to blogs and newsletters. The more information that you expose yourself to that aligns with your goals, the more likely you are to learn and understand what you need to do to take the next step. Quite often, they will come with there will be a loyal following, and interacting with these people will only build a broader support network.
At the end of the day, your health and fitness is your personal journey, and it will come down to you to achieve the goals that you set. The best thing that you can do though is to involve as many people in the process as possible. Be honest with yourself, if the people that are around you are not as supportive as they should be, do you need to shift their focus and also find people who are more aligned with your health and fitness targets?
Do you think the people around you have a positive or negative impact on your health results? If the answer is not what you would like it to be just remember – if you surround yourself with great people, and great things happen.
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